“He doesn’t love you anymore… So what? He didn’t love you the minute you met either … And you were just fine.”
Okay, let’s be clear – there is no easy way to get over a breakup, especially if you had very strong feelings for your partner. There is no guide, which will guarantee that after reading it you will be “just fine”.
Everyone finds their own way of dealing with the split up – some choose to go party every night and others cry themselves to sleep until it “gets better”. Even though everyone gets over a breakup differently, there are a couple of things that could be done to make this hard and long process slightly easier and faster.
Social media is one of the main reasons why so many couples break up. “Why did you follow him?” or “Why did you like her photo?” Sounds familiar? I will be honest, to me it does! So let’s think for a moment… If Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat and other social medias made you think that your partner is into someone else while you were in a relationship; how will it make you feel after you split up? Every time you see your ex-partner liking someone’s picture or becoming “friends” on Facebook with the person you don’t know, you most likely will think he moved on and “OMG! So fast?!” Surely seeing his activity on Facebook or Instagram won’t make you very happy. So just unfollow. Everywhere. Simply unfollow.
2. Keep busy
Some people “lose themselves” in a relationship. What does it mean? It means that the things they loved doing before a relationship they no longer love to do. Some people don’t even realize how and why this “anomaly” happens. Right after the break up is the perfect time to remember all those hobbies you had before getting yourself a partner. If you keep yourself busy and do the things you once loved to do, it will help you not to think about your “other half” twenty-four hours a day.
3. Don’t hold on
If you broke up with your partner there was probably a good reason behind it. Nobody breaks up out of boredom. After the split up, some people tend to hold on to their exes and it’s not something they should do. Don’t get me wrong – everyone feels sad right after, but I am talking about those people who even a year after a break up still wake up with the thought of getting back together. Don’t. While you are hoping for something, which will probably never happen again, all the opportunities and the “right” people are passing by without having a chance of entering your life, and who knows, maybe one of those people could have played a role of your life partner.
Everything is easier said than done, but at the end of the day, every person who is going through a difficult time needs to understand that he is not the only one and it does really get better with time.
I believe that time heals! Do you?
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